Dad was ‘slave to loo’ after surgery left him incontinent and humiliated

An emotional dad has spoken of his "terrible embarrassment" after suddenly becoming incontinent following prostate cancer surgery.

Alan Williams, 55, had radical prostatectomy to remove a large mass on his prostate and save his life earlier this year.

But, after his catheters were removed, the father-of-two, from Telford, Shropshire, found he’d lost control of his bladder.

He described the crushing moment "as bad as receiving the cancer diagnosis itself".

Speaking exclusively to Mirror Online, the engineering manager said: "Being an active person before, being housebound and restricted from the quality of life I was used to was extremely difficult.

"I completely lost my confidence, I was wetting myself like a baby.

"At home you were safe because you always had a toilet to visit but going out the house was out of your control, it was frightening. The times when I did leave the house were humiliating."

Alan, who lived an active life and enjoyed the outdoors before his diagnosis, had to wear incontinence pads. He went through around four every day.

This destroyed Alan so much he wouldn’t leave his home to take his wife of 25 years out for dinner or even walk his dogs. He struggled to talk to his friends, particularly men.

The dad, originally of Dolgellau, north Wales, added: "The feeling of having a lack of control of your bladder is indescribable. Once you start, you can’t stop.

"I was unable to do basic things such as taking my dogs for a walk or go out for dinner.

"Often, I would only last a few minutes before wanting to return home. I felt horrible and filled with worry if I couldn’t access a toilet.

"I was a slave to the loo. The embarrassment to have to wear pads was terrible.

"You take self-control for granted. I found it very difficult. It destroys your life."

In addition to his incontinence, Alan suffered erectile dysfunction which threatened his marriage.

He added: " The ED (erectile dysfunction) was just as bad. Blokes don’t talk about that, and certainly not incontience.

"I had to have injections before sex, every time before sex. It was a bit of a mood killer.

"But my wife was understanding. She was a rock throughout it all."

Alan became incontinent in August days after the operation, which doctors stressed was "the only option if he wanted to survive".

He described the warnings of incontinence as "brief and underplayed".

But when Alan’s humiliating ordeal became unbearable, he scoured the web for ways to speed up his recovery.

Last month, the car enthusiastic by chance came across a pair of shorts with electro muscle stimulation technology, said to help aid bladder weakness.

He’s been wearing the INNOVO shorts for four weeks and has found himself to "become like a different person".

While doctors in Telford, Shropshire, haven’t said his incontinence has been cured, Alan first stopped showing symptoms this week.

His said his months of torture are finally over.

He continued: "I now have my life back. I am no longer a slave to being stuck in the home. I am walking my dogs again and enjoying an active life with my family. I’ve been able to go back to work now too.

"There is not enough awareness of how horrific bladder weakness can be.

"To me, suffering with Incontinence and prostate cancer were as bad as each other – the latter is life threatening, but the former impacts your quality of life beyond anything imaginable.

"I want to share my story to awaken those suffering with incontinence that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, that there is a solution and you do not need to put up with a life living in incontinence pads."

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