I am 24, my boyfriend is 26 and we’ve been together for two years.
Everything was great at first. He has a lot of qualities I think a life partner should have.
I then found out that he already had a girlfriend when we first started dating.
He was also talking to lots of women online. I confronted him and he promised he would stop but it keeps happening over and over again.
I know he’s trying to show me I can trust him now. I am trying hard to believe he won’t cheat again but it all became too much for me and I ended up cheating on him with a guy at work.
It was this guy’s leaving do and we both got pretty hammered. He’s a year younger than me but I’d always known he fancied me.
That night our flirting ended up with me going back to his flat. The sex was fun but his new job is 200 miles away so I don’t think I’ll see him again.
That seemed to break the ice for me. A few days later I slept with my friend’s ex, then a guy I knew from school — but he’s married so I’m not going there again — then my ex, and the fifth guy I met in a club.
I still see that last one. He isn’t perfect but he’s OK. He makes me happy and the sex is great. I don’t have sex very often with my boyfriend.
I know my relationship with my boyfriend has to end but I really do love him, though I can’t explain it and I don’t have many reasons to be in love with him. He doesn’t support me, motivate me or understand me.
We argue almost every day and he looks miserable all the time.
It’s like being back at home when I was young. I had a really hard upbringing. My dad left my mum when I was two and there wasn’t much love around.
I don’t want to be the kind of person that I am now. I hate myself for behaving like this but I am not strong enough to stop.
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DEIDRE SAYS: At least you realise you have a problem and want to change but it will take willpower.
Sex gives you a sort of a chemical high, and it’s probably become addictive because you’re suffering from an underlying depression, which the buzz wards off.
Your dad abandoned you and you grew up in a loveless home. You’re nervous of trusting your love to any one person who may hurt you.
It’s time to take control of your life. If you can’t make your relationship work, then end it. The longer you leave it, the more hurt your boyfriend will be in the long run.
Don’t just fall into a relationship with the guy you are now seeing if you’re not sure he’s right. It’s usually a good plan to have a spell as a singleton between relationships.
You’ve risked your sexual health so get to your local GUM (genito-urinary medicine) clinic for a check-up.
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