My girlfriend and I agreed to move in together but she won't compromise

DEAR DEIDRE: MY girlfriend and I have agreed to move in together but she refuses to leave her current area.

We have been in a long-distance relationship for four years. I’m 35 and she’s 32.


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After so long only seeing each other at weekends – and not for months during the lockdowns – I can’t wait for us to live together.

But she says I have to move to her town, 100 miles away, because she can’t move away from her friends and family.

Yet she expects me to do exactly that.

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Plus I will have a very long and expensive commute to work every day. She works from home, so that’s not an issue for her.

I love her and don’t want to break up but there doesn’t seem to be a solution.

DEIDRE SAYS: When a couple reaches a stalemate, either one person has to give in or you both have to compromise.

Maybe you can both move somewhere in between.

Perhaps she is scared things won’t work out. You are both making a leap of faith.

My support pack called Looking After Your Relationship should help.

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