My late husband left his half of the house to a charity putting a strain on my finances

DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER my husband died at 54, I discovered he had left his half of our house to an animal charity I’d never heard of.

I keep wondering what it was that led him to be so unkind. I paid almost all our household expenses and he contributed little.

Making our home secure put a great strain on my finances. I am now 53.

When I told relatives what he’d done, they were not surprised. One said she always knew he was a selfish man.

I also found my husband had actually told people he was not married. He turned his back on me and the children too, which was very hurtful, particularly for them.

I keep asking myself what it was I did that induced him to behave in this way.

DEIDRE SAYS: It was not something you did or didn’t do. I realise a charity has benefited but your husband behaved in a calculatedly cruel way.

His behaviour was designed to hurt you and his children, and that will have stemmed from his own early experiences in life, not how you and your kids are.

You deserve happiness now. Concentrate on your-self, your kids and the future.

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