I’m a 25-year-old guy, she’s 23 and we have a little boy together who is four.
She chose our boy’s first birthday to tell me she no longer loved me.
We split up and when I saw her status online, I was going to jump off a bridge until the police talked me down.
My ex is no longer with the other guy. We are close again – as friends – and I love her new baby like my own.
But I feel traumatised, hurt and angry. I’m still in love with her but can’t forgive her.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Bottling up your feelings is only intensifying them.
Tell your ex you are still in love with her and it would help to know whether she thinks you can ever have a future together.
If she says no, then you can take a step back emotionally while still seeing the children.
If she says yes, say you will need help together to heal the wounds of your break-up. My e-leaflet How Counselling Helps explains in more detail.
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