Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham have been in a relationship longer than some of us have been alive, and many wonder if the duo will ever get married. The answer? Most likely not.
In a column for the February issue of O, The Oprah Magazine, the iconic TV host said had she married Graham, their relationship may have never worked out.
“In 1993, the moment after I said yes to his proposal, I had doubts. I realized I didn’t actually want a marriage. I wanted to be asked,” Winfrey wrote. “I wanted to know he felt I was worthy of being his missus, but I didn’t want the sacrifices, the compromises, the day-in-day-out commitment required to make a marriage work. My life with the show was my priority, and we both knew it.”
She added: “He and I agree that had we tied the marital knot, we would not still be together.”
Winfrey said she has a “spiritual partnership” with Graham, one where her partner was able to create an identity and purpose outside of being “Oprah’s man.”
Winfrey also recalled thinking Graham was a “player” during their one of their first encounters.
“I thought he was nice enough, but I wasn’t that impressed. He was polite, yes, and kind. The sort of guy who sits with an ailing friend. Tall and handsome, for sure. But actually too handsome, I thought, to be interested in me,” she wrote. “I figured he must be a player. So did all my producers. They warned me not to get involved with that Stedman guy.”
Winfrey has been open about not being married or having children before, and she said she had no regrets during an October interview with People magazine.
Winfrey said the show required 17-hour workdays and she would return home to her dogs and to Graham. She said her partner let her be who she needed to be in the world.
“He’s never demanding anything from me like, ‘Where’s my breakfast? Where’s my dinner?’ Never any of that, which I believed would have changed had we married.”
She added: “No question about it – we would not stay married because of what that would have meant to him, and I would have had my own ideas about it.”
She also noted she once considered having children with Graham.
“At one point in Chicago, I had bought an additional apartment because I was thinking, ‘Well, if we get married, I’m going to need room for children,’ ” Winfrey said.
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